Long after a marriage ends, the needs for both former spouses to raise their children remains. This is typically called co-parenting. Co-parenting can be defined as sharing the duties of parenting, but it can also apply to any situation where spouses divorce and have minor children. Every couple’s situation is vastly different and will present its own unique set of challenges. Effective co-parenting can go a long way to help; and it can help protect the children involved in a divorce from the conflict between their parents.
Here are some helpful tips to remember when approaching co-parenting.
1. Communication
When sharing the responsibilities of raising children, it is important that each parent communicate with the other parent. This includes not only major updates pertaining to the healthcare, education, and general well-being of the children; but it also includes taking the time to speak about what is going on in the children’s lives. Sharing relevant information can help avoid many of the conflicts following a divorce. In situations where communication is a bigger challenge, such as those were divorced spouses have remaining animosity towards each other, communicating through text, email, or a neutral 3rd party can help.
2. Respect
As hard as it may be at times, respecting the other parent and demanding the same is a must when co-parenting. There will be decisions that both parties need to agree on, regardless of the terms of custody. By respecting each other, co-parents can better work as a team when raising children in separate households and avoid a situation where the relationships between the former spouse or even the children and a parent spiral in a negative direction.
3. Flexibility
While each parent is best served by sticking to the agreed upon parenting schedule, there will be times where both parties need to be flexible. Work hard to ensure the schedule is respected as to provide the children with stability and assurance moving forwards; but also remain flexible to modify when doing such is in the best interest of the children.
4. Pick Your Battles
Conflict is unavoidable when co-parenting. There will always be issues that co-parents cannot agree on. Have a plan on how to communicate these concerns with the other parent; but understand that not every battle is worth fighting. Each parent will deal with every situation different and you cannot expect the other parent to do things exactly the same as you do.
5. Be Positive
Divorce and separation can be a negative experience. This can easily impact the children caught in the middle. Make an effort to be positive, especially when discussing things with your children. Take the time to highlight your co-parents positive points and efforts. This will help your children feel safe and loved; while bad mouthing the other parent or being negative can push the relationships between the family in unhealthy directions.
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